What Therapists Say About Using AI in Grief

As AI tools for grief enter the mainstream, mental health professionals are weighing in. Is this healthy? Is it denial? Or is it a breakthrough in grief therapy?

The consensus is shifting. While caution is always advised, many therapists are recognizing the potential benefits of what is known as "Continuing Bonds."

The Theory of Continuing Bonds

For decades, the dominant model of grief was "letting go." You were expected to sever ties with the deceased and move on.

In the 1990s, a new theory emerged: Continuing Bonds. This theory suggests that it is normal and healthy to maintain a relationship with the deceased. We do this by talking to them, keeping their photos, and celebrating their birthdays.

AI voice preservation fits naturally into this model. It is a high-tech way of maintaining that bond.

"Transitional Objects" for Adults

Therapists often compare these tools to "transitional objects"—like a child’s security blanket.

• Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, a neuroscientist and grief expert, notes that the brain takes a long time to understand that a loved one is gone. Tools that simulate presence can provide a "soft landing" for the brain, reducing the acute stress of separation.

Potential Pitfalls

Therapists also warn of potential risks.

• Avoidance: If someone uses the AI voice to avoid facing the reality of the loss (e.g., pretending the person is still alive), that can be maladaptive.
• Rumination: If listening to the voice causes intense distress or prevents a person from engaging in their daily life, it might be time to step back.

The Verdict? It’s a Tool.

Like any tool, its impact depends on how it is used.

• Healthy Use: "I miss Mom today. I’m going to listen to her voice for a bit to feel close to her, then I’ll go have dinner with my friends."
• Unhealthy Use: "I can't go out with my friends because I need to stay home and talk to Mom."

Most therapists agree: If it brings you comfort and helps you function, it is a positive addition to your grieving process.

At EchoAgain, we encourage users to be mindful of their emotional state. We are building a tool for comfort, connection, and love—supported by the latest understanding of human psychology.