How to Manage Grief at Work

Going back to work after a loss can feel like stepping into a foreign country. The world has kept turning, meetings are still scheduled, and emails are piling up, but your internal world has come to a halt.

Navigating professional responsibilities while carrying the heavy weight of grief is one of the most difficult balancing acts you’ll face.

Setting Boundaries

You don't have to be "on" all the time. It is crucial to set boundaries to protect your emotional energy.

• Communicate Clearly: Let your manager and close colleagues know what you’re going through, but share only what you’re comfortable with.
• Take Breaks: Step away from your desk when the waves of grief hit. A five-minute walk or a moment in a quiet room can make a difference.
• Lower Your Expectations: You might not be operating at 100% capacity, and that is okay. Be realistic about what you can achieve.

Managing the "Grief Fog"

Grief can affect your concentration and memory, often called "grief fog."

"Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming." – Vicki Harrison

Write things down, use checklists, and tackle one task at a time. Don't be afraid to ask for help or extended deadlines if you need them.

Finding Moments of Connection

Work can sometimes offer a welcome distraction, a place where you are defined by your skills rather than your loss. However, bringing a piece of your loved one with you can be comforting.

Keep a photo on your desk or listen to a recording of their voice during your commute. Services like EchoAgain can help you preserve these audio memories, allowing you to feel their encouragement before a big presentation or a tough day.

Be Kind to Yourself

If you have a hard day, don't judge yourself. Healing is not linear, and it doesn't pause just because you are in the office. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a grieving colleague.