How to Cope with Losing Your Mom

Losing your mom changes your world in an instant. She was likely your first connection, your first comfort, and a constant presence in your life. When that presence is gone, the silence can feel deafening.

It’s important to remember that grief is not a linear journey. It’s a messy, unpredictable path that looks different for everyone. There is no "right" way to grieve, and there is no timeline for when you should "move on."

Acknowledge Your Pain

The first step in healing is simply allowing yourself to feel. Society often rushes us to "get back to normal," but your new normal is different now.

"Grief is the price we pay for love." – Queen Elizabeth II

Allow yourself to cry, to be angry, to be numb, or to be exhausted. All of these feelings are valid.

Preserve Her Memory

One of the biggest fears people have after losing a loved one is forgetting—forgetting their laugh, their stories, or the sound of their voice.

Here are some beautiful ways to keep her memory alive:

• Create a Memory Box: Gather photos, letters, and small trinkets that remind you of her.
• Write Letters: Continue the conversation by writing to her in a journal.
• Cook Her Recipes: The smell of her favorite meal can bring back powerful, comforting memories.
• Listen to Her Voice: If you have voicemails or videos, back them up. The sound of a loved one's voice is one of the most precious connections we have.

Finding Comfort in Technology

In the digital age, we have new ways to remember. From digital photo frames to online memorial pages, technology can help us bridge the gap between the past and the present.

Some people find comfort in organizing old family videos or digitizing physical photo albums. Others are turning to newer technologies to preserve the essence of their loved ones.

Be Gentle with Yourself

You will have good days and bad days. On the bad days, treat yourself with the same kindness your mom would have shown you. Rest, drink water, and reach out to friends who listen without judgment.

You are not alone in this journey. While the pain of loss never fully disappears, it does change shape over time, making room for the beautiful memories to shine through again.